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| Thread ID: 81332 | 2007-07-24 08:47:00 | What to do at a ball / prom with an enthusiastic partner? | Renmoo (66) | PC World Chat |
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| 572206 | 2007-07-24 20:01:00 | Can I nominate this as best thread of the year! :lol: :lol: :lol: KenCan I nominate we ban HiTech, as the retard of the year? Anyway, Jamuz, just be yourself. Talk to her pre-ball and tell her you aren't the greatest dancer, but for her you will try (definite brownie points here) Talk about anything and everything. Ask her about hobbies, what she is wanting to do after she finishes school etc etc. If its not to cold, go for a walk. But just enjoy yourselves :D Small addition: Jamuz, DON'T plan the evening, let it flow. Otherwise you'll be uptight all evening (and she will notice, females aren't dumb when it comes to body language) |
Myth (110) | ||
| 572207 | 2007-07-24 20:03:00 | Dancing - How do I dance to rock / pop / R&B music? Ceroc. After one class, yes ONE, you will be able to dance to pop, rock, etc. http://www.ceroc.co.nz www.ceroc.co.nz This may be the closest www.ceroc.co.nz Or go to the Auckland central location on Lorne Street: www.ceroc.co.nz Popular with uni students. 6.15 pm today, Wednesday. Get there! Forget normal ballroom style rock and roll classes. Those are BORING, and you have to start at a specific time and finish a 6 week course, or longer. With Ceroc, you go anytime. Skipping a week or whenever is OK. It is incredibly fun and most people there will be your age, not boring stuffy oldies. Believe me, James - this is dancing like none other - and if you manage to go 3 or 4 times before the prom, you just may be one of the best dancers at the prom. BTW, you don't need to have a partner but if you want you can take your prom partner. Also, you don't need any previous dance experience; and you don't even need to worry about what foot goes where. If I could turn the clock back to when I went to my prom, I would absolutely get dancing lessons. As it was, I had a (rather attractive and hot) chic who begged me to take her to the prom and I tried to talk my way out of it by saying I did not dance and would not dance. I joined my mates at a table and drank, while she danced with her girlfriends and guys. Stupid me, it was a waste of money. James, the only thing that may stop you from going to Ceroc is fear. Many of us guys freak out when it comes to dancing, or have to be drunk to get on the floor and then shake around like silly buggers. No need to get uptight about Ceroc. Just do it, but watch out because you'll have girls all over you when they see how good of a dancer you are. One last thing. Go to your local video shop and get the film Shall We Dance? Try to get the original Japanese version but if that is not available the Hollywood flick with Richard Gere will do although the Japanese one is better. OK to watch with your family - nothing they would get upset about but after seeing it your dad will probably surprise you all by taking up dancing. |
Strommer (42) | ||
| 572208 | 2007-07-24 20:05:00 | The trick with any date irrespective of how long or short you have been together is to listen, listen listen . Ask questions that get them to talk about themselves . People love talking about themselves and if you nudge them along and queue them to reveal more is even better, it means your paying attention and listening and therefore you care . If she asks you questions, answer briefly but honestly (girls know when you lie) but then quickly get her opinion, its the only reason they asked you the question in the first place - so they can tell you what they think . Use non verbal cues - like lean in when she is talking, nod apprpriately and smile, grin or gasp depending on what she is saying - it doesnt matter if you agree or not - if she is speaking then it is important, trust me . On later dates then you can start to introduce conflict discussions - these are tricky and need to be handled by masters . When peformed correctly you will elavate your status from being interesting and nice to being intelligent and commanding . I'm afraid it is too early to divulge any details here . Let me know when you get to that level grasshopper and when you can snatch the pebble from my hand - then you will be ready :) As for the dancing - act coy and say you are embarrased to dance but if she is willing to teach then you're willing to have a go . Girls love helping - its innate - they just want to help a needy soul, but not tooo needy . Drink - good to hear you dont . You will save a truck load of money . If you want to have fun - laugh at the drunk ones, tease the hell out of them, (but watch her reaction and dont over do it) . Dont worry they wont remember the next day so have fun at their expense . Good Luck Sensei |
sam m (517) | ||
| 572209 | 2007-07-24 20:22:00 | The key to a successful night (which doesn't have to include a horizontal rumba) is to be yourself. Assuming you actually like this girl, and perhaps may want to go out again, make her understand that you are genuinely interested in her by asking lots of (relevant) questions about herself. If she does most of the talking she will think you are a GREAT listener. Girls/women love that. Or, to be flippant: sincerity is key; if you can fake that, you're made!! |
johcar (6283) | ||
| 572210 | 2007-07-24 20:28:00 | Memorize what Sam_m says about how to talk - its spot on. Ask her about her family, studies, siblings, whatever, and LISTEN very carefully and take great interest in what she says, in a sincere caring manner. Make eye contact, smile naturally, and with your Ceroc skills, she will ace it 100% successfully. | Strommer (42) | ||
| 572211 | 2007-07-24 20:29:00 | He is a teenage boy . Of course he wants to do jiggy jiggy with her, Its hardwired . Metla, you are sooooooo right . It is a pleasant surprise to see a young one who plans a big occasion like this and saying this : No Drinking, No Drugging, No Digging . Good on you, Jamuz . Listen to the wise words of a few younger guys on this forum and you'll be OK - the older guys are still thinking fondly of all the lost chances they had to do a jiggy jiggy (a la Metla) at certain times in their young lives and they may steer you in the wrong direction . I would suggest that if you attend another ball next year, pick some-one who wants to jiggy jiggy and you will have no problem planning the evening . LOL sarel |
sarel (2490) | ||
| 572212 | 2007-07-24 20:29:00 | OH Myth you are so funny. :lol: :lol: :lol: :D :D How about we nominate Myth as clown of the decade. |
Hitech (9024) | ||
| 572213 | 2007-07-24 21:08:00 | Get drunk and pork her. No women like to xxxxxx drunk men. |
pctek (84) | ||
| 572214 | 2007-07-24 22:15:00 | The trick with any date irrespective of how long or short you have been together is to listen, listen listen . Ask questions that get them to talk about themselves . People love talking about themselves and if you nudge them along and queue them to reveal more is even better, it means your paying attention and listening and therefore you care . If she asks you questions, answer briefly but honestly (girls know when you lie) but then quickly get her opinion, its the only reason they asked you the question in the first place - so they can tell you what they think . Use non verbal cues - like lean in when she is talking, nod apprpriately and smile, grin or gasp depending on what she is saying - it doesnt matter if you agree or not - if she is speaking then it is important, trust me . Good morning Sensei . It is good to find more constructive posts besides those made by winmacguy and Jen . Yeap, I will apply what I have learned from "Communications" . :p I am just worried that I will be a stunned hamlet on that day . I feel more reassured to go through what I will do on that day so that my long-term memory will save me from the embarrassment . Having said so, my partner is an understanding person, so there is no pressure on me . As for the dancing - act coy and say you are embarrased to dance but if she is willing to teach then you're willing to have a go . Girls love helping - its innate - they just want to help a needy soul, but not tooo needy . She claims that she can't dance as well: Just don't laughwhen I step on your toes when we are dancinG okay? hoho I don't think I have had that many experiences with FORMAL dancinG Drink - good to hear you dont . You will save a truck load of money . If you want to have fun - laugh at the drunk ones, tease the hell out of them, (but watch her reaction and dont over do it) . Dont worry they wont remember the next day so have fun at their expense . It is a pleasant surprise to see a young one who plans a big occasion like this and saying this : No Drinking, No Drugging, No Digging . Good on you, Jamuz . Drinks come at no extra charge with our ball tickets, but as I said, we definitely won't try them out . Good Luck Sensei Thanks Sensei . Incidentally, "sensei" means "teacher" in hokkien or Taiwanese . Can I nominate we ban HiTech, as the retard of the year? I will second that - I am even tempted to add him to the ignore list (which I have never done that before to any PF1 user) Anyway, Jamuz, just be yourself . Talk to her pre-ball and tell her you aren't the greatest dancer, but for her you will try (definite brownie points here) Talk about anything and everything . Ask her about hobbies, what she is wanting to do after she finishes school etc etc . If its not to cold, go for a walk . But just enjoy yourselves :D She said the exact same thing to me as well . That's good, at least no one expects the other to be good and competent, which will certainly clear off any tension . Small addition: Jamuz, DON'T plan the evening, let it flow . Otherwise you'll be uptight all evening (and she will notice, females aren't dumb when it comes to body language) I will try to let it flow naturally, but I am a Mr . 90% Perfectionist . I know sometimes it is best to let things occur on their own, but I like to have a Plan B to back me up in case my gut disappears at the last minute . Ceroc . Hi Steve . I would love to attend a dance class, but . . . . the circumstances are simply not permissible for me to do so . But hey, dance video! I will check that out if I have got the time . :D Cheers :) |
Renmoo (66) | ||
| 572215 | 2007-07-25 01:33:00 | not sure if it's the fact i'm running a fever, but has your user name changed:confused: | plod (107) | ||
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