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Thread ID: 98600 2009-03-30 21:29:00 What to do about a Hotmail user sending inappropriate e-mails? Oggy (5399) Press F1
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760834 2009-03-30 21:29:00 A young female work colleague of mine has received a couple of disturbing e-mails from someone hiding behind a hotmail address.
They offer a casual relationship involving 'hot sex' but the disturbing part is that this creep has described clothes she was wearing one day ... so he is a real guy who has noticed her and found her e-mail address.

The police is a real option.

I am not a Hotmail member but I've had a look at their site through another colleagues account. I was unable to find any indication that you can block a user from e-mailing you or that you can even report another user. Can anyone offer any constructive suggestions.
Oggy (5399)
760835 2009-03-30 22:01:00 Hotmail has the option to block emails from other users. It is located under options > more options > Junk Email > Blocked senders. Just enter the email address of the sender and it should block the user from sending your friend emails. Hope this helps. ronyville (10611)
760836 2009-03-30 22:10:00 AND report it to the police! Seriously, this guy is creepy enough to be doing the email thing, who knows what he might be planning? They could possibly persuade the Hotmail admins to help try & trace him. MushHead (10626)
760837 2009-03-31 00:40:00 Thanks.
I phoned the police and they advised the best thing she could do was to reply and say "not interested ... if I hear from you again I'll refer this to the police". The sergeant I spoke to said that if he did not leave her alone they would then get involved on the basis that he'd been warned that his attention was unwanted but persisted in contacting her.
Oggy (5399)
760838 2009-03-31 01:35:00 Thanks.
I phoned the police and they advised the best thing she could do was to reply and say "not interested ...

I sure wouldn't reply. That would just confirm that she does have that address and she did see his email. Both things he would be pleased about.
pctek (84)
760839 2009-03-31 03:07:00 I sure wouldn't reply. That would just confirm that she does have that address and she did see his email. Both things he would be pleased about.
Are you a policeman as well as a pctech?
:)
Trev (427)
760840 2009-03-31 03:25:00 Are you a policeman as well as a pctech?
:)

Common sense, I would have thought.
wratterus (105)
760841 2009-03-31 05:39:00 I agree it is common sense not to reply
BUT
If you want to involve the police you have to establish the "I have warned you" factor
Ask for a read receipt (If hotmail can do that) he sounds like hes dumb enough to send one.

The third alternative is gather some large friends and arrange a "meet"
DeSade (984)
760842 2009-03-31 07:45:00 at least Google his email address, it might show up somewhere else that could identify him Ofthesea (14129)
760843 2009-03-31 21:28:00 If she does want the police involved, then she would need to warn the guy she's not interested and to stop e-mailing her - the police won't act until then.

Sad as it may seem, this guy might actually think he will be successful by being straight to the point so he might keep on doing it until he's warned. (I doubt it though).

The other thing is, there is probably nothing illegal in offering a ' casual relationship with hot sex', so the only way she probably *could* get him to stop, is either a) if the e-mails become offensive/explicit; or b) she's warned him to stop and he continues - then it would become harrassment.

It seems odd that this guy has been able to find her hotmail address though and knows what she was wearing...he must already know her? Maybe he works with her. Is she new to your firm? Maybe it's someone from the HR Department who had access to her CV that might have contained her e-mail address??!!
Chikara (5139)
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