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| Thread ID: 85510 | 2007-12-13 00:04:00 | Whats the best age to have your second child??? | never-u-mind (6500) | PC World Chat |
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| 620713 | 2007-12-13 04:55:00 | I was 34-ish when my first (and only) child was born. I did wonder if it had been left a bit late, but on reflection I guess any earlier would have been too early for me. | Myth (110) | ||
| 620714 | 2007-12-13 05:02:00 | Ill be 31 when my first is born next March. I often wonder if Im doing things a bit late. But I have travelled the world and done things I always wanted to do. I wanted to do that stuff before getting settled I guess. | rob_on_guitar (4196) | ||
| 620715 | 2007-12-13 07:09:00 | The best age for the second child to be born, like the first, is 12 months before their first birthday. Any older and they start being a problem child. |
R2x1 (4628) | ||
| 620716 | 2007-12-13 07:19:00 | Is there a best age? Is it advice you want or need? My wife was 30 with our first, 32 with our second. Both are beautiful, vivacious and a great credit to their parents. Both have good careers and so does Mum. All left poor old Dad behind. It is possibly better to have children later than earlier, particularly if that makes Mum and Dad that more mature and, hopefully, more financially secure. We were married five years before we had our first as we had a mortgage and other massive outgoings that needed to be fed - two incomes are definitely better than one! So I'm not certain that there is a best age, but we are certainly more than happy with our brood. Perhaps start to worry when you are heading into your sixties! |
Roscoe (6288) | ||
| 620717 | 2007-12-13 07:44:00 | For what it is worth, there are two years between our first two, then three and a half to the third. The first two were great mates through early childhood, and the first really raised the second because she idolised him and imitated him in everything. Toilet training was therefore a breeze. No 2 resented No 3 coming along and breaking up the happy duo and their hotline to the gods (I mean parents). It is still an issue. Don't know what this tells you. I guess it means two years was an ideal gap and don't have a third unless you want to deal with the consequences for the next 30 odd years... |
John H (8) | ||
| 620718 | 2007-12-13 07:56:00 | There was a segment on TV tonight (might have been the TV3 news or Campbell Live) -- they have done studies which show that the older you are when having children the longer, in general, you live. Many centenarians have had children when they were pretty (relatively) old ! :illogical So there you go - who would have guessed ! and how serendipity that this thread should be running and also the segment on TV :D Misty :) |
Misty (368) | ||
| 620719 | 2007-12-13 07:56:00 | Really just became curious as my friend mentioned her fears of having a child at that age, I don't think it was due to health reason but more life style as she has an active social life. I think it would be an o.k time to have a child and I guess I wanted to know others thoughts on the matter as it got me thinking about having a child somewhere down the line ......... great to hear some great family stories and I apologise FoxyMX for not reading your post correctly and thank you for your advice. My sister and I are 18mths apart in age and are extremely close, I have a brother who is 10 years older and we find it very hard to be brother and sisterly but I think that is more because he is an idiot :lol: |
never-u-mind (6500) | ||
| 620720 | 2007-12-13 08:09:00 | Whats the best age to have your second child???Probably the same age as the first - 9 months. :D | Greg (193) | ||
| 620721 | 2007-12-13 08:42:00 | What a delightful thread. :thumbs: I was a late starter in the parenting stakes so I have a few thoughts on the topic. Firstly with regard to gaps between children, there is no ideal space. Some who are close in age grow up with really tight bonds. Others, like my two daughters, grow up as rivals :xmouth: - or so it seems when they bicker. Their brother in the middle is calmness himself. Ages 10 - 12 -14. My wife was 33 when we had our first and I was, er... slightly older. For us this was the right time and the right decision. Most of my friends were well on the way by then with children already at school. Today their children are leaving home and the parents are ready to enjoy a fresh slice of life unencumbered. Nevertheless we all mature at different rates. I know that I would not have been a good parent in my 20s. Too keen to party, too selfish, not much money - it would have been frustrating. However we can all think of young parents who cope extremely well and for them having children while young is exciting and right. I certainly don't think 32 is too old or too young to have a second child. There are lots of chapters in books on childrearing devoted to this question but at the end of the day, if you have the instincts to be a good parent, there is no wrong time to do this. |
Winston001 (3612) | ||
| 620722 | 2007-12-13 08:58:00 | Unfortunately (here goes the Biology rant), maternal age effect starts to increase in its significance once a woman is over 30. The infants are at a greater risk of developing genetic defects as the pregnancy is conceived at a later age. Cheers :) |
Renmoo (66) | ||
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