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| Thread ID: 86716 | 2008-01-26 10:16:00 | February 29- all men beware! lol | Sick Puppy (6959) | PC World Chat |
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| 634202 | 2008-02-29 05:48:00 | I arn't that old, but may it be difficult picturing one self living alone in a small house to their elder years? Cos even if its not marriage, isn't it if you lived with someone for some time maybe 2yrs if not mistaken then that is regarded as a formal relationship and has the same legal stuffed attached? So if you split, your possessions split too. | Nomad (952) | ||
| 634203 | 2008-02-29 06:11:00 | first time i heard about it and now on campbell live. thought it was just secret admirer at valentines :p a few more hours to go :D | Nomad (952) | ||
| 634204 | 2008-02-29 06:31:00 | For those who are older. Do you find that its peer pressure that you do? And that when you meet up with other people of your age provided you are in your 30s or whatever that age is, they say, hey take her/him with you. If someone you get on good with, pops the question that you cannot say no? You could but could you really. Just going via a boss's experience. :D I just know, from my experience that you parent brings it up .. your grandparent brings it up, do does your cousin who got married. Then they move out and mortgage a property. You ever felt of peer pressure? Yes, of course there's peer pressure after " a certain age." There always has been - and it was much worse for the grandparent/parent generations, who never had the living-together option because it was utterly socially unacceptable. Even then, it would be a fairly gutless individual - of either sex - who got married simply because of that. And nowadays, when it appears acceptable to live together without marriage ( a complete turnaround that was unimaginable in my young days ), it would be even more gutless to take such an important step just because other people thought it was a good idea. There's no rush, after all... Edit: As I recall, if a woman proposed on Leap Year Day & you turned her down, you had to buy her a pair of gloves. Now that was fine when I was a girl, as we HAD to wear gloves to be well-dressed. I wonder what a modern equivalent would be ..? |
Laura (43) | ||
| 634205 | 2008-02-29 11:05:00 | I am learning more by the day, most things I didn't know :D I think the greatest pressure is when your friends say its someone's b-day, or house warming and they invite you over and then I'm the person who goes alone :dogeye: The other day, I was watching the news, and haven't this person for yrs and the topic was more marriage from this better economy. I saw his wife or gf back then and they were engaged, ehh .. thats familiar then later his face popped on ah ... :D |
Nomad (952) | ||
| 634206 | 2008-02-29 15:36:00 | or they are aliens | rob_on_guitar (4196) | ||
| 634207 | 2008-02-29 16:56:00 | I think if one were to look around at the older people in the community, one would see that there's a certain amount of security in being married to each other . For numerous reasons . . some silly . . . some downright necessary . . . but there's both good and bad in a marriage . At youth . . we are all pretty much invincible and indestructible . . at least we seem to think so . But as we age we see that we are NOT all that powerful and are really subject to the foibles and inconsistencies of age and regression to a more child-like state that needs to be held, loved and cared for as well as caring for another person . It's reciprocal . My time on this planet so far is 62 years . . and through my first marriage (deceased wife) and into the second, I find a great amount of solace with being with another person for all the problems and confusion it really generates . Not that marriage is bad . . it's just that there are two minds and two thoughts and . . . really . . two sets of emotions . Not that marriage is good either . . . it definitely crimps the "style' of a swinging bachelor or 007-type persona . . . but the payback is a lot better with consistency and reliability in a home, life and social situation . I know it's all macho to NOT let emotions run in a guy . . . but when you find that your masculinity is not being threatened by feeling that way sometimes, you can let go of some stupid ideas and really get on with living life better . Those who protest that they won't ever allow emotions into their life are not very secure in their sexuality anyway . They view it as a soft weakness and steer away from it . Sad . So . . . marriage? YES . . . for those who can live with and still respect the feeling of and about the other person . Marriage . . . NO for those who don't respect their partner . . or themselves . It doesn't matter WHO asks the other . . . it's all relative and good anyway . Just go with it . |
SurferJoe46 (51) | ||
| 634208 | 2008-02-29 18:31:00 | Edit: As I recall, if a woman proposed on Leap Year Day & you turned her down, you had to buy her a pair of gloves. Now that was fine when I was a girl, as we HAD to wear gloves to be well-dressed. I wonder what a modern equivalent would be ..? From what I have seen on TV over the last few months and more... buy the young lady a dozen alcopops!! Things have changed Laura. Some for the better, some for the worse. I feel that us lot in the older generation tend to see more of the bad than good. Ken |
kenj (9738) | ||
| 634209 | 2008-02-29 19:48:00 | Marriage vows these days may as well be/and are, treated like politicians promises during an election year when I see wedding ceremonies. The Government made a law that says if you live in a relationship in the nature of marriage for over three years then you have the same benefits as a couple whom have a marriage certificate. I promise XXX, YYY and ZZZ "until death do us part" I made those vows three times. Over time the first wife died, the second wife died and the third wife walked out taking half my assets after 26 years together. At least I lasted 3 years more than her first husband who she also walked out on. Wondering if this is a genetic issue lately? My last wife had four offspring Three females and one male. Each and everyone has separated from their first "partner" and gone on to form other relationships. Marriage vows (to me) mean commitment to the other person for life. No matter what comes you handle ups and downs as a team. Having said that there are some things that people should not have to tolerate. And for that matter neither should they have to. For example Husband abusing Wife or children. Husband finding that the neighbour is more foxy and the list goes on. Husband coming home to find Wife sharing a bed with his workmate. Possibly the marriage vows should be changed? I promise to be with this person for the rest of my life or until I find someone better or more convenient. |
Sweep (90) | ||
| 634210 | 2008-02-29 20:50:00 | this day of the leap year has traditionally the day where a woman can propose to a man what would be the situation with the engagement ring? How dumb . I say a woman can propose anytime she wants . I don't have an engagement ring . I don't even have a traditional engagement ring . Nor an eternity ring . Husband bought (I chose) a generic ring 2 years after our wedding . I picked it cause I liked it . Its 1 of only 4 pieces of jewellery I own . Anything else is a waste of money . Diamonds price are artificially inflated anyway . |
pctek (84) | ||
| 634211 | 2008-02-29 21:05:00 | You're my kind of girl, pctek!! | johcar (6283) | ||
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