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Thread ID: 97963	2009-03-05 15:03:00	Me and my ex - final closure	Greg (193)	PC World Chat

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753839	2009-03-30 09:00:00	I know someone who broked up, he's an Aussie, was stalked, then booked the next flight outta NZ :thumbs: Came to work and gave an instant resignation. And has he got custody? Did he take the child(s) with him? Personally I fail to see your point.	Sweep (90)
753840	2009-03-30 09:15:00	They not married I think, no kids. My point is .. hey, if you have no baggage .. easy come easy go. Just get the heck outta the whole country. So much freedom being single. I know people whom would rather be single incl a guy who is 60yrs old and never married :D	Nomad (952)
753841	2009-03-30 09:59:00	Yes, all of our angels have turned into hookers, lol.	zqwerty (97)
753842	2009-03-30 10:32:00	They not married I think, no kids. My point is .. hey, if you have no baggage .. easy come easy go. Just get the heck outta the whole country. So much freedom being single. I know people whom would rather be single incl a guy who is 60yrs old and never married :D Well I happen to still be married. Third Wife who split. We live in the same block of flats and neither divorced. The other two wives are dead. In the event I found a new lady I would have to divorce. If you want easy come easy go then I would think you have no comittment to the relationship.	Sweep (90)
753843	2009-03-30 20:41:00	Well I happen to still be married. Third Wife who split. We live in the same block of flats and neither divorced. The other two wives are dead. In the event I found a new lady I would have to divorce. If you want easy come easy go then I would think you have no commitment to the relationship. I thought it was married people who got divorced,so how does marriage equal commitment?	Cicero (40)
753844	2009-03-30 21:10:00	No - there is just a commonly held feeling that there is a trend in the Family Court to favour the female party to any custody proceedings. I'm not sure whether it is supported by any research, though. Through my life experiences however, I have seen it is the trend that men leave their families when things get intolerable in the relationship - and then fight for custody - rather than it being the woman who leaves the family and then fights for custody. The Family Court will only ever order a change in custody when there is a compelling reason. They don't just do it because one party asks for it to change. Therefore, whoever has custody at the time of the separation tends to keep it. Agreed. Until the early 1990s, the Courts followed the "Mother Principle" which was not written in law but consisted of the view that, all other things being equal, children were better off living with their mother. In other words, if you had a good dad and a good mother, custody would be awarded to the mother with flexible access for the father. The law has been clarified to now remove any presumption in favour of the mother. All very well. The reality is that children usually have a stronger bond with the person who gave birth to them and raised them as a baby. Mother/child bond - not rocket science. Additionally the father will have a full-time job providing for the household so he can't spend as much time with his child in the formative years. It doesn't mean he doesn't care or the child means less to him - the question for the judge is - where will this child's needs be best met? What happens in bitter disputes is both parents use custody arguments as a tool to hurt the other parent. The children become weapons in the battle. It's sad and painful for all concerned.	Winston001 (3612)
753845	2009-04-01 03:43:00	I think some people missed the point. I am not talking about personal experience I haven't been separated/divorced but my mates have. The male gets stiffed and the female is usually laughing all the way to the bank. Its not 50 50 at all the female normally gets what she wants. Its all well and good saying men get bitter and twisted, they do get bitter and twisted and its caused by the courts favouring the female. I know of woman whose husband kicked her out, shifted in his new girlfriend and has since fought tooth and nail to stop her getting her fair share to support THEIR 2 children, while he goes and has a new kid with the girlfriend. The family home was in his parents name and he's using that to stop her getting a share of it. I know of another woman whose long time boyfriend left her when she was pregnant with their child and shacked up with the new model girlfriend. Since then this woman has had to raise their daughter by herself with zero support from him, even though he is fairly wealthy, as he's managed to hide his true income from the courts. Now that his daughter is a teenage he suddenly wants to spend more time with her and starts demanding more access. I think you've missed the point. Life is a lot more complicated than injured male pride and misogynistic bull**** would lead you to believe ....	Biggles (121)
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