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Thread ID: 97963	2009-03-05 15:03:00	Me and my ex - final closure	Greg (193)	PC World Chat

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753809	2009-03-07 04:31:00	Sigh.................. this is a horid attack on Greg and females........... in my case............. yes been seperated and divorced myself....sigh. 3 and a half years ago, i was at home, stepped out of shower, got dressed etc ( if you recall we ran a motel) and he walsed in and said its over i dont love you any more and ive been having affairs with 4 ladies and 2 of them my best of friends......... i was devastated. he said you have to leave as soon as possible i dont want us to be a family any more. 13 yrs together. i was in the middle of a teaching block, and realised, i lost my home, my work, and a family. at that stage i had no credit, references, nothing so down to WINZ and try to get thro my final assignment for teaching without stuffing up as that is what i live from today. 6 weeks later we finally got to move, me and kids............. found somewhere to rent, was too expensive, no money no job. our own family house became empty. i decided to move into our family home. i got part time work, i was now being stalked, reported on movements and threated with lawyers and court to say im unfit mother, he had seen the kids once since we moved out. we moved in november. moved to my house feb. lawyers got on the case.............. blackmailed and court ordered to sell our house, i was there 3 weeks. :( moved house again. too close to him in the new house, at night he used to walk past. neighbours were his friends. they told of my visiotrs, hours i kept. managed to stick it out for 18months, began to work full time. access to kids made 3 trips to counsellors, socialworkers in my home, and a pshyc for my emotionally wrecked daughter. (this worked wonders) and then 3 yrs down the track, i got my money, half of what i was expecting, as a business was involved, a trust, and a house........... and very angry people on his side. i bought a house, it needs work, but its mine, and its a long way from his house. we still have issues, and access is sometimes very eratic for the kids. and i earn enuf to keep us afloat. he admitted he wanted me to fail teacher training, he wanted me penniless, he wanted me to be a sad DPB mum. he wanted revenge for goodness only what i did..................... as i thought marriage was for life......... :illogical He nearly destroyed my best friends marriage on a pack of lies, and now it turns out most was lies, just to get rid of me and bring in a new family, a replacement family with kids. and the lies he told to all and the people he destroyed on the way is amazing. he even had the gall to accuse his own children as liars and theives....... But their school has caught him out and now knows the score, and not from me. so its not all about the man getting done over................ i still have major trust issues............ this has caused me grief, i worry alot, i care too much about my childrens welfare, and they will always come first. and im afraid......... i no longer trust most males, ive been let down by too many and the ones who cared enuf, im just too dam scared to admit i need help. i have very few friends because he made it sound like i was the bad guy........... and by me not responding in horid attacks they have learnt what a cretin he is....... im better off with out him, i survive with very few friends, and a job i love and kids who i would die for. Ive left a whole lot out, but if you read between the lines....... and a great PF1 help family. :D beetle :) life goes on.	beetle (243)
753810	2009-03-07 04:54:00	When the Nouvelle Zealande justice systems treats men and woman equally especially with who gets the kids everything will be sweet. Got a long way to go yet. When are all people going to learn? Try to tolerate your neighbour(s). All people are not going to be equal to other people. When you say, "especially with who gets the kids" I think you are talking about the Family Court possibly. The Family Court is in closed session and is not published to the general media in any event. Any person is not equal to any other person in my opinion. We are all individuals and are products of our upbringing, teaching and what we, over time, begin to believe. The media is jumping up and down about boy racers but we generally hear nothing about girl racers. We can all have suspicions like people from another country. home.nzcity.co.nz	Sweep (90)
753811	2009-03-07 09:17:00	I would want the bike. home theatre. AND THE HOUSE. if i could get it i will. im not a unfaithful guy so why should i have to give it to a cheating b*tch Moron. :rolleyes:	johnnyfrango (14148)
753812	2009-03-07 10:18:00	Well, after 9 months of being apart and enduring all sorts of emotional shizza, me and the ex have finally resolved our financial issues. everyone gets knocked down at one time or another, the trick is to get back as soon as you can. good work.	robsonde (120)
753813	2009-03-07 16:47:00	Thank you to all the folks who've given positive responses. Something obviously tells that I am pretty much cut by the breakup, so my posting about gain of some cash is just me trying to claw back a bit of what I lost, albeit in a small way. One question was asked what I did to deserve the payout. Well firstly it isn't much, especially considering the fact that her father is a millionaire, and her late mother's family are very wealthy. So the cash is no skin off her back. Secondly I helped support her for 2 & 1/2 years when she worked only part time while she obtained a Masters degree - I paid virtually all the houshold expenses during that time. I also gave her comprehensive help when she obtained an American certificate in her proffession. I also gave her tons of material help, eg computers, software and PC tuition. Further, I negotiated the purchase of the home, getting $15k off the asking price; got a $2k reduction off the cost of her new car; did all the household repairs and maintenance, including fixing roof leaks, fixing locks on two doors, repairing the second bathroom cistern, repairing dishwasher, getting a few 100 bucks off the purchase of a fridge, cooking virtually all meals, especially when her friends and family visited... and the list goes on. Billy... re the Jag... as mentioned the X-Type is based on a Mondeo drive train and engine, so I expect it to be reliable. Winston... you've obviously got the know-how when it comes to the legalities. But I should mention that any Personal Property, from whatever source, be it inheritance or whatever, becomes Relationship Property once it's put towards a Family home, which in our case it did. At the Conference her lawyer didn't even dare to bring this issue up, him knowing full well the aspects of the Act that apply. At the end of the day she would have been far worse off financially if I wasn't around. The $53k is nothing to her. It's a small, albeit pyrrhic victory to me that I won't come out of a dedicated relationship completely empty handed. If the sodding b***h had told me that she'd had an abortion during her more promiscuous years, I'd never have fallen for her in the first place, and none of the shizza would ever have happened - I'd have stayed away from her further than any spider can crawl! Finally... as for the legal aid... I have paid taxes for around 20 years, and of course I have to pay it back. But at least the cost to the tax-payers, you and me, are only around $153.00 per hour. On the other hand she's paid and is paying around $400.00 per hour!	Greg (193)
753814	2009-03-07 19:26:00	Greg. It was your idea to post your circumstances on this forum. Your Ex has not for some reason. Just get over it! In my case, my Wife of 26 years separated from me. I guess it was an amicable separation. This, in so far as we still see each other on a regular basis. We even now live under the same roof but not in the same dwelling. To explain further we both reside in the same block of flats.	Sweep (90)
753815	2009-03-07 19:54:00	Good riddance to all of my ex's, only married once, never again.	zqwerty (97)
753816	2009-03-08 02:06:00	On the other hand she's paid and is paying around $400.00 per hour! That's a lot - I know of three very senior family lawyers (20 plus years of experience) who bill out at $250 per hour + gst.	Deane F (8204)
753817	2009-03-08 02:35:00	If the sodding b***h had told me that she'd had an abortion during her more promiscuous years, I'd never have fallen for her in the first place, and none of the shizza would ever have happened - I'd have stayed away from her further than any spider can crawl! And this paragraph could be one of the reasons she got rid of you. I can't really see the problem if she had an abortion before you were together, shame on you. Unless I read it wrong and this happened during the relationship.	plod (107)
753818	2009-03-09 01:08:00	You seem proud of yourself, but did you deserve a settlement or are you just happy you screwed Her over? Couldn't have said that better....there are always to sides to the story.... god knows why you feel the need to air your dirty laundry in public anyway?:(	SolMiester (139)
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