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Thread ID: 97963	2009-03-05 15:03:00	Me and my ex - final closure	Greg (193)	PC World Chat

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753799	2009-03-06 12:38:00	HaHa,Yeah I am paying them back for the money they spent on raising me and looking after me etc. and I want to help them out now that they are retired as well and because I love them of course!!!:D:thumbs:;):blush: Thats alot of paying back, average kid costs about $200k to raise, payin back at $100 a week...thats a few weeks pay! :D	hueybot3000 (3646)
753800	2009-03-06 15:02:00	hmmm...deep seated issues? Your a bit young to be bitter aren't you? That crap will ruin any relationship you may ever have before it even gets started. When I'm old and I look back on the things in my life that meant something to me, I doubt it will be the house itself..... Couldn't agree more with those sentiments, Metla... ...and I'm not sure whether to laugh or feel sad about such comments on marriage relationships from a 15 year-old member... (Love the "I'm not an unfaithful guy." Gee, you've been tested on that already? Should I be impressed? Not impressed, though, by the "cheating b*tch" talk. Cynical uncouth talk from a grown-up sounds simply show-off copying when it comes from a kid. You're speaking to female members here too, remember...) But I don't want to single out just one member. There are several other big-tough-talkers in this thread who are (by my definition) still kids. They've not yet experienced anything like the sort of long-term relationship Greg had. And they're simply talking the kind of garbage people say about abstract ideas, with no comprehension of what love & commitment really means. Some of the "older" posters with vengeful comments about women are old enough to know better,though. (You know who you are. I assume from those smart-arse comments that some woman took more than you thought she deserved when she left you) But that can work both ways, of course, as Winston has thank heavens already pointed out. He also suggested you lighten up. I echo that - with a reminder that some couples split with an amicable agreement about dividing things up. I'm sorry Greg & his partner didn't manage that, but it doesn't mean all women are money-grubbers - which has so far been the tenor of this thread. And as pctek is the only female so far to post in this thread, it seemed time another one had a burst...	Laura (43)
753801	2009-03-06 16:25:00	But I don't want to single out just one member. There are several other big-tough-talkers in this thread who are (by my definition) still kids. Some of the "older" posters with vengeful comments about women are old enough to know better,though. (You know who you are. I assume from those smart-arse comments that some woman took more than you thought she deserved when she left you) But that can work both ways, of course, as Winston has thank heavens already pointed out. He also suggested you lighten up. I echo that - with a reminder that some couples split with an amicable agreement about dividing things up. I'm sorry Greg & his partner didn't manage that, but it doesn't mean all women are money-grubbers - which has so far been the tenor of this thread. And as pctek is the only female so far to post in this thread, it seemed time another one had a burst... I hope it wasn't my comment, I'm almost 34, been in my current relationship for almost 18 years(yes school sweethearts). I know if the time comes I will be walking away with nothing if the children are still at home, and if their are not my partner has put up with enough **** to take what she wants, no worries. Sometimes its just easier to walk away then to fight over material things:2cents:	plod (107)
753802	2009-03-06 20:05:00	I couldn't agree more with Winston, Metla and Laura . I've watched this thread and the comments that followed, being both saddened and amazed at some of the words used, even had there not been females also reading this forum . I'm sorry it didn't work out for Greg but I do hope he can now put it behind him and not carry the baggage of bitterness around . I'm not talking "peace, love, man!" Hopefully, the birth of the grandchild may being some harmony . When it comes down to it, the most important things in (most of) our lives are family and friends . Good luck, Greg .	Marnie (4574)
753803	2009-03-06 20:36:00	Couldn't agree more with those sentiments, Metla . . . . . . and I'm not sure whether to laugh or feel sad about such comments on marriage relationships from a 15 year-old member . . . (Love the "I'm not an unfaithful guy . " Gee, you've been tested on that already? Should I be impressed? Not impressed, though, by the "cheating b*tch" talk . Cynical uncouth talk from a grown-up sounds simply show-off copying when it comes from a kid . You're speaking to female members here too, remember . . . ) But I don't want to single out just one member . There are several other big-tough-talkers in this thread who are (by my definition) still kids . They've not yet experienced anything like the sort of long-term relationship Greg had . And they're simply talking the kind of garbage people say about abstract ideas, with no comprehension of what love & commitment really means . Some of the "older" posters with vengeful comments about women are old enough to know better,though . (You know who you are . I assume from those smart-arse comments that some woman took more than you thought she deserved when she left you) But that can work both ways, of course, as Winston has thank heavens already pointed out . He also suggested you lighten up . I echo that - with a reminder that some couples split with an amicable agreement about dividing things up . I'm sorry Greg & his partner didn't manage that, but it doesn't mean all women are money-grubbers - which has so far been the tenor of this thread . And as pctek is the only female so far to post in this thread, it seemed time another one had a burst . . . I think we can be fairly confident after this thread that there is no danger of this site turning into a geek dating site, the attitudes to women in this thread are astounding and it is obvious why women have to go to court to get their share of property . Some of you guys are bitter and twisted and it's your attitudes that got you where you are by the look of it .	Twelvevolts (5457)
753804	2009-03-06 20:54:00	I think some people missed the point. I am not talking about personal experience I haven't been separated/divorced but my mates have. The male gets stiffed and the female is usually laughing all the way to the bank. Its not 50 50 at all the female normally gets what she wants. Its all well and good saying men get bitter and twisted, they do get bitter and twisted and its caused by the courts favouring the female.	prefect (6291)
753805	2009-03-06 21:21:00	There are several other big-tough-talkers in this thread who are (by my definition) still kids. Hence why I didn't contribute anything important. I've been through it once (no not marriage), lasted about a year, can't say I lost my house...err room or any of my belongings so I got no experiance that's relevant.	--Wolf-- (128)
753806	2009-03-06 22:00:00	I think some people missed the point . I am not talking about personal experience I haven't been separated/divorced but my mates have . The male gets stiffed and the female is usually laughing all the way to the bank . Its not 50 50 at all the female normally gets what she wants . I have a female friend who split up with her 1st . He owns 2 houses and has plenty of money . He took her to court on a regular basis over child access, as she moved towns . I am related to this guy by marriage and I can tell you he is an &&^%$#@# . Then she had a 2nd relationship . She is currently still in the house, which she pays for . He pays nothing at all, not even child support for their child . It will be sold and will be 50/50 . My husband had 3 before he met me . It went 50/50 With his 1st - he bought an MGB with his share and then wrote it off . Idiot . His 3rd, they had a house each . He sold his . She kept hers . Having a relationship is a 50-50 thing, it takes 2 to fight . Yes you do get an abusive relationship on occasion with one partner (male or female) being the main problem, but mostly its a mutual thing . You have to work at it . Everyone disagrees or has stressful events happen, how you handle it determines the outcome . There is always 2 sides to the story . Not offence Greg, but your partner didn't get to comment on this forum did she?	pctek (84)
753807	2009-03-06 22:08:00	There is always 2 sides to the story. Not offence Greg, but your partner didn't get to comment on this forum did she? I was waiting for someone to say this. Couldn't agree more with your comment pctek. As far as we know Greg could of been at fault. :)	Trev (427)
753808	2009-03-06 22:09:00	When the Nouvelle Zealande justice systems treats men and woman equally especially with who gets the kids everything will be sweet. Got a long way to go yet.	prefect (6291)
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