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Thread ID: 97963 2009-03-05 15:03:00 Me and my ex - final closure Greg (193) PC World Chat
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753759 2009-03-05 15:03:00 Well, after 9 months of being apart and enduring all sorts of emotional shizza, me and the ex have finally resolved our financial issues.

We attended a Settlement Conderence on Monday (for those who don't know, it's a meeting between the parties in front of a Family Court judge to see if we could come to an arrangement before having to go to an actual Hearing, or trial). Any agreement made is final.

We settled, and I got about a third of what I was after, being just $53 grand instead of the $132K I was realistically due.

The reason I settled for such a low figure was that I'd have to wait probably another 6 months before an actual hearing, and then if she appealed maybe 1 or even 2 years after that before I got any cash. And even then the outcome was never guaranteed; in other words I could have received as little as 10K.

Basically it's all good now that it's over. I'm still suffering the affects of the emotional breakup, unlike the Witch who's happily paid me off to get out of her life.
I actually offered her to pay me out 50K about a year ago to move out of her life, but instead she's ended up paying far more.

The irony of it all is... although I've received 80K less than I wanted and was legally entitled to, it cost her roughly 80K out of her pocket to pay me the 53K! My legal expenses were nearly zilch because of my low earnings - legal aid paid most of it, but she had to fork out my 53K, + 20K legal costs, + 10K in putting all the property into a Trust which was to try and defeat my claim on the home etc.

The stupid bimbo has given me hell and run me down over the last year, so now that I'm 53K better off it's a great relief and now she can go and... well whatever she wants, but knowing that she's paid through her backside for the pleasure.

Meantime, I'm going to buy myself a nice modern Jag car, take a trip with my brother to visit my grandaughter and others in Melbourne, set myself up in a nice rented flat here in Napier, and get back to work properly in a decent environment.

Oh, and in case anyone wondered, I'm not going to rent the best looking hooker in town for a few nights - I'm already becoming friendly with a nice local hottie.

So in case Sandra reads this - here's one in your eye! :p
Greg (193)
753760 2009-03-05 16:02:00 Good on ya Greg. Great to hear you've stood back from all that has happened and worked out that overall, this was probably the best result and the pleasure your ex seems to have taken the hardest route to get there.

Have fun in aussie and enjoy your new car :banana
sam m (517)
753761 2009-03-05 16:40:00 You seem proud of yourself, but did you deserve a settlement or are you just happy you screwed Her over? Steven (7085)
753762 2009-03-05 17:25:00 My legal expenses were nearly zilch because of my low earnings - legal aid paid most of it,

Um, you do realise you will be paying back the legal aid out of the proceeds, don't you?

From here: (www.lsa.govt.nz)

"The proceeds of the case if any. The applicant will probably have to pay back the full amount of legal aid (minus any money already paid) if any money or property is won out of the court case."
Deane F (8204)
753763 2009-03-05 19:16:00 We settled, and I got about a third of what I was after, being just $53 grand instead of the $132K I was realistically due.

The irony of it all is... although I've received 80K less than I wanted and was legally entitled to, it cost her roughly 80K out of her pocket to pay me the 53K!
The stupid bimbo

Meantime, I'm going to buy myself a nice modern Jag car, take a trip I'm already becoming friendly with a nice local hottie.

So in case Sandra reads this - here's one in your eye! :p

How mature.
Only the lawyers win out of stuff like this.
It takes 2 you know, you can't have a fight with yourself only.

If you had just split 50/50 amicably then neither of you would have lsot out.

Jags depreciate. My husband did that once, bought a car with his settlement - then not too long later he wrote it off.

He grew up by the time the next one came round.
pctek (84)
753764 2009-03-05 19:52:00 You can never beat the cows, you might have thought you have won but something will happen and you WILL always lose. prefect (6291)
753765 2009-03-05 20:15:00 I hope you are right Deane - I don't see why the taxpayers should pay for Greg to get $53000 - Let's hope we get every cent back Dally (6292)
753766 2009-03-05 20:31:00 Greg, sounds like you and your ex have been dragged through hell n back, so here's to moving on and starting a new life :) Chilling_Silence (9)
753767 2009-03-05 20:35:00 Actually, I wouldn't of posted my personal problems on a public forum.
:)
Trev (427)
753768 2009-03-05 21:01:00 ...
Only the lawyers win out of stuff like this.
...

I agree with you 100%
bk T (215)
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