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Thread ID: 146066	2018-04-14 21:49:00	Sad but a hard lesson to learn	piroska (17583)	PC World Chat

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1448454	2018-04-14 21:49:00	So GD (10 now) wanted a savings account. She had saved chores money and money from dad in a piggy bank before and done well. Learning not to spend like mad etc. So we got one. No cards, nothing, just mailed bank statements. That didn't happen, I couldn't ring, cause I wasn't "authorised", they wouldn't talk to her cause she's a minor. Grr... So we went down, said why no email statements anyway? She has a (school) email address. Anyway bank suggested Internet access. with, of course, the usual warnings.... I went on about that to her, if she told anyone password, that would be it, lose money, bank would be angry and close account etc. She didn't, wouldn't tell anyone at all. All it has was view account and transfer, nothing else. So, mum finds out. She gets her to transfer $30 to mums account. Oh no. When I found that out I said log in and check balance. She couldn't, she forgot the password. She ended up locking the account after the limited tries. OK, it can stay like that then. So this weekend (she only here on weekends) we go to bank to A)Check B)Get a bit out as she is staying with a friend this week, so a bit of spending money. She had 68c left. Mum had transferred 8 times (before account got locked) and emptied it. $171 in total. I said, did mum watch you the first time? Yep. So internet access cancelled. Statements to resume by email (hopefully). I guess mum could drive (quite a way) and take her into the bank, but I said if she does, txt dad. Then it will have to be a joint only acc with him. But I'm not sure the b*** would make the effort to do that, and risk a scene at the bank... Bugger though, poor kid. I did tell her mum was like that and never give her money as you never get it back etc etc. She didn't believe me really, I mean, it is her mum.... Now. Well. How low is that. Steal off your own kid.	piroska (17583)
1448455	2018-04-14 22:04:00	It happens, my step sons father would do that too if he had the chance. Step sons father who lives in Oz didn't pay anything for years always claiming to be broke, he was self employed and didn't draw a wage from his business. Anyway that b^&*(rd remarried to a lawyer where they live in Syndney and his parents told my wife in front of me that they didn't see why his new wife should support their grandson. Now i'm normally very laid back but I lost it big time told them why the F%&^ not since I had at that time been supporting the boy for 5 years and counting. But to them their son could do no wrong not even paying a cent to his own son was fine to them. Payback is great though as he now has 2 under 3 years at past 50 and if he tries to to do the same again well did I mention he married a lawyer	gary67 (56)
1448456	2018-04-14 23:23:00	It happens, my step sons father would do that too if he had the chance. Step sons father who lives in Oz didn't pay anything for years always claiming to be broke, he was self employed and didn't draw a wage from his business.Anyway that b^&*(rd remarried to a lawyer where they live in Syndney and his parents told my wife in front of me that they didn't see why his new wife should support their grandson. Now i'm normally very laid back but I lost it big time told them why the F%&^ not since I had at that time been supporting the boy for 5 years and counting. But to them their son could do no wrong not even paying a cent to his own son was fine to them.Payback is great though as he now has 2 under 3 years at past 50 and if he tries to to do the same again well did I mention he married a lawyerGood on you for supporting your stepson. You are not required too. I’m a firm believer in raising your own children even if they don’t live with you. The father having more children with a new partner doesn’t take away obligations he has with his other children. His new partner is under no obligations to support her stepchild either. So I will say step up parents and not just dads and pay for the raising of your own children.	plod (107)
1448457	2018-04-15 07:44:00	How low is that. Steal off your own kid. OMG :eek: thats lower than low. Some people have no morals what so ever. Stealing from anyone is bad enough but come -on a 10 year old. Sorry BUT I cant really type how I feel about that, it will be all ********************** People like that need dealing to (Think you know what I mean ) :angry Whats the saying -- Karmas a B1TCH !!!!!! Hope the GD listens to you. May not be a huge amount in the overall view of things, but that's just not on !!!!!	wainuitech (129)
1448458	2018-04-15 07:48:00	Good on you for supporting your stepson. You are not required too. I’m a firm believer in raising your own children even if they don’t live with you. The father having more children with a new partner doesn’t take away obligations he has with his other children. His new partner is under no obligations to support her stepchild either. So I will say step up parents and not just dads and pay for the raising of your own children. People should think about the consequences of rooting before the bustups happen and kids are the victim.	prefect (6291)
1448459	2018-04-15 09:37:00	The bank allows 10 year old's a account? I thought 13 to 16 would be minimum age. or some added security when logging in - e.g. texting to a assigned/approved person's mobile.	kahawai chaser (3545)
1448460	2018-04-15 19:38:00	Good on you for supporting your stepson. You are not required too. I’m a firm believer in raising your own children even if they don’t live with you. The father having more children with a new partner doesn’t take away obligations he has with his other children. His new partner is under no obligations to support her stepchild either. So I will say step up parents and not just dads and pay for the raising of your own children. Totally agree with you the mans an arse wipe. I don't have children of my own and have a fantastic relationship with my step son who is now 23 standing on his own 2 feet as an electrician and sees his father for what he is.	gary67 (56)
1448461	2018-04-15 22:01:00	The bank allows 10 year old's a account? I thought 13 to 16 would be minimum age. or some added security when logging in - e.g. texting to a assigned/approved person's mobile. Yes. Cards and internet are not generally done until age 13, but the bank decided it was OK, as a solution to the bank statement issue. I was surprised, but then I thought OK, stress the consequences, warn her and let her learn. Although I didn't expect mum to clean it out completely. So, lesson learned. Two lessons really. Yes, I know prefect, I said it many times before the kid turned up into the world, but you, being male, know the difficulty in keeping it tucked away in the first place, and some women are sure not trustworthy in that regard either. However, he loves his daughter....and she is a good kid, so one good thing came out of it all.	piroska (17583)
1448462	2018-04-15 22:21:00	Wouldnt bank fees and charges have emptied that a/c eventually anyway ? They charge for every little thing , some even charge when you make cash deposits into the a/c Its a bit late now , but maybe next time maybee a joint a/c between you & the GD , with you having control over the a/c ?	1101 (13337)
1448463	2018-04-16 00:55:00	Wouldnt bank fees and charges have emptied that a/c eventually anyway ? They charge for every little thing , some even charge when you make cash deposits into the a/c Its a bit late now , but maybe next time maybee a joint a/c between you & the GD , with you having control over the a/c ? I agree with you. My bank acct is joint with my daughter in law & is also my Power of Attorny(?). I trust her. To have a bank accy with the girl & Pirosk sounds a good idea. Piroska. If you do get such an acct set up, I promise to send you $20 to start her off. PJ.	Poppa John (284)
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