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| Thread ID: 115305 | 2011-01-12 04:24:00 | Do You Have A Partner? | Roscoe (6288) | PC World Chat |
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| 1169206 | 2011-01-12 07:06:00 | I see a lot of people through my work, and often when the 'partner' word is used I find the gaydar does tend to trigger some suspicions, although often there's other unspoken stuff that also leads to the suspicion before the partner word is used. There's certainly straight people using the 'partner' word, but it seems disproportionately popular with same sex couples. I recently had an old school friend say "this is my partner" - only to find he was introducing an Aussie male. Given that I'd always assumed he was straight I was surprised to find how long it took to get used to the reality that he was long-term gay. I think Partner is an appropriate term if in a solid relationship, as saying girlfriend or boyfriend does not really confer the degree of solidity that the term partner has. Partner says more than just GF or BF, but is still a step short of spouse. What I'm most curious of now is whether gay relationships suffer from the same issues that straight relationships are plagued with... insecurities, jealousies, mismatched social groups, anger, mismatched libidos...etc. Is a long term relationship ever easy? |
Paul.Cov (425) | ||
| 1169207 | 2011-01-12 07:09:00 | Well, I quite like partner, implying that we share responsibilities. The wife or my wife sounds like I own her - believe me, I don't! But I sometimes use it, also SWMBO, depending on who I'm talking to. If I feel that it's none of their business whether I'm married or not, or whether I'm gay or not, I'll use partner. But it's not a big deal, really. |
TideMan (4279) | ||
| 1169208 | 2011-01-12 07:19:00 | I normally use partner. She is not my wife although we have been together for more than 20 years... | user (1404) | ||
| 1169209 | 2011-01-12 07:20:00 | a 'partner', or what they really are: husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, or perhaps de facto? If you are living with your loved one (hows that for a better term?) then de facto sounds like some kind of medical experiment. GF or BF generally means ou are with them but not living with them. Husband or wife implies you actually married them. That's why partner is popular. I live with and married mine. What I call him depends on the situation. Tonight we called each other %^^%#. |
pctek (84) | ||
| 1169210 | 2011-01-12 07:54:00 | Partner label came from the poofta section of our community. It's not pc to call them what they are & it just goes to show how stupid the world has got if you can't even call a wife a wife | Phil B (648) | ||
| 1169211 | 2011-01-12 08:08:00 | Partner | radium (8645) | ||
| 1169212 | 2011-01-12 08:29:00 | I am proud to tell the world that I have a wife and never refer to her as 'my partner'. Same here; a de facto marriage is a marriage. While a de facto marriage is not defined by a certificate signed by a legally appointed official + witnesses, it does signify a long term serious relationship that stands as a marriage in a court of law. To me a 'partner' could be a business partner, dance partner, or whatever, and does not denote a committed relationship of two people living together. Of course it is personal preference and I can understand why some people do not like the term 'wife' or 'husband'. |
Strommer (42) | ||
| 1169213 | 2011-01-12 08:53:00 | At the end of the day, it's just a label. Much like your name. It identifies who & what you are | Phil B (648) | ||
| 1169214 | 2011-01-12 09:06:00 | I see a lot of people through my work, and often when the 'partner' word is used I find the gaydar does tend to trigger some suspicions, although often there's other unspoken stuff that also leads to the suspicion before the partner word is used. There's certainly straight people using the 'partner' word, but it seems disproportionately popular with same sex couples. I recently had an old school friend say "this is my partner" - only to find he was introducing an Aussie male. Given that I'd always assumed he was straight I was surprised to find how long it took to get used to the reality that he was long-term gay. There are long-term and short-term gays?? Partner says more than just GF or BF, but is still a step short of spouse. Now here is a question, what's the difference between an unmarried couple and a married one? The government views "de facto" nearly the same as married, so where does one draw the line of being or not being a spouse? So what is the point of marriage anyway, moreso if you aren't going to call your wife/husband your wife/husband? Damn it, I sound christian. :( |
Cato (6936) | ||
| 1169215 | 2011-01-12 09:21:00 | I think they use partner because of all the possible relationship satuses that are possible, eg wife/husband, boy/girl friend, guy I live with, engaged etc. And example would be a mate of mine, his parents are divorced and his mum had a new partner. they are not married and as far as I know have no intention to ever be married. they aren't dating girlfriend boyfriend styles. they are just partners. I don't see the term "partner" as a demoralising or discriminatory term at all. |
The Error Guy (14052) | ||
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