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| Thread ID: 125150 | 2012-06-09 10:23:00 | Manners maketh the prospective son-in-law???.... | ReefRunner (16049) | PC World Chat |
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| 1280774 | 2012-06-09 10:23:00 | :help:My family and my eldest daughter's boy friend, aged 17, went for a meal at a fairly sophisticated 'French' restaurant, at least it is sophisticated enough to serve a pretty decent coq au vin and list its chips as pom frit. The boyfriend is a likeable young man but he did not remove his baseball cap on entering the restaurant or when we were seated at our table. To me this demonstrated extremely bad manners and was insulting to his hosts. I suggested that he should remove his cap and a discussion ensued as to the rights and wrongs of his being required to do so. He eventually complied with my request and the meal progressed under a cloud. I try not to be too old-fashioned when it comes to manners, having 3 teenage daughters brings me down to earth quite often, but for a male to wear headgear in anyone's home or in a restaurant is, for me, a no way José. Any opinions on this, was I right or wrong or just being too old-fashioned as my eldest daughter insists that I was? :confused: |
ReefRunner (16049) | ||
| 1280775 | 2012-06-09 10:54:00 | There's two issues here - 1, wearing of the headgear, and 2, should you have remonstrated with the offender. This agony uncle says: NO on both counts. However, why not ask the questions again, setting them up as a Poll? :D |
WalOne (4202) | ||
| 1280776 | 2012-06-09 10:56:00 | You should be happy that he wears a hat on one head, hopefully he will on the other | plod (107) | ||
| 1280777 | 2012-06-09 11:29:00 | Its only a hat, who gives a rats ass? I'm with your daughter on this one. |
DeSade (984) | ||
| 1280778 | 2012-06-09 11:50:00 | If my father-in-law tried to have a go at me over a hat I'd tell him to grow up, then I'd ignore him until he pulled his head out of his arse. Pathetic. |
Metla (12) | ||
| 1280779 | 2012-06-09 12:31:00 | Definitely Manners maketh the man. Good on you for standing up the such hill-billy behaviour. Clearly this young man has not been taught good table manners. I'm pleased to say that I taught my son his and he's been welcomed by his various girl friends parents as a well mannered young gentleman. Where we have met these parent my late wife and I are complimented on how well we have raised him. | HAL9000 (12736) | ||
| 1280780 | 2012-06-09 13:18:00 | If that's the kind of thing your kids were taught, then hopefully they'll find a spouse with similar values. It certainly makes life interesting later on when they're in a relationship and one person finds that acceptable while the other does not. Personally, I'd level with your daughter, being honest about how you feel about how he displays respect. That said if she finds that 'acceptable' in a potential partner, not much you can really do but roll with it ;) |
Chilling_Silence (9) | ||
| 1280781 | 2012-06-09 14:57:00 | im with ReefRunner on this one, being brought up by my nan, wearing a hat at the table was considered impolte and warranted an instant kaning to the buttoks (pre anti-smaking law) . | headshot (16454) | ||
| 1280782 | 2012-06-09 17:45:00 | I would disown a daughter that approved of such activity, that still leaves two! | Cicero (40) | ||
| 1280783 | 2012-06-09 20:32:00 | Well I'm in between on it. I agree, that while not dressed up in a suit, you should be at least tidy when going out. But why is it insulting to wear a hat while eating? Maybe the hat was scruffy? No? Then what does it matter? Is it one of those silly rules like you must only drink certain substances out of particular shaped glasses, you must use a special implement for eating certain types of food and so on? Manners yes, ridiculous over the top rules? No. So long as he was tidy, nice to your daughter, polite to you, ate tidily I wouldn't be fussing. |
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