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Thread ID: 125150 2012-06-09 10:23:00 Manners maketh the prospective son-in-law???.... ReefRunner (16049) PC World Chat
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1280784 2012-06-09 20:34:00 im with ReefRunner on this one, being brought up by my nan, wearing a hat at the table was considered impolte and warranted an instant kaning to the buttoks (pre anti-smaking law) .

I also agree with ReefRunner as well. For the type of place he was in, he should of removed his cap. End of story.
Was his pants half way down his backside ?
wmoore (6009)
1280785 2012-06-09 21:32:00 Yeah, Judge a mans worth on his hat.

Be prepared to ruin your relationship with your daughter by holding any potential partner of hers to ridicules standards of your own design.

He likes your daughter, she likes him, whats your problem? Are you sure its the hat?
Metla (12)
1280786 2012-06-09 22:12:00 Which way round was the hat? Either way , if worn inside, definitely indicates a lack of 'couth'. Good manners are not difficult to learn, and are not ridiculous as Metla likes to think. Richard (739)
1280787 2012-06-09 22:15:00 I would have let it slide, but would later would have asked him to remove his cap in future. I've been brought up casually, but to me if you're in a higher class restaurant it seems a bit rude to not remove your hat. If it wasn't in a restaurant I wouldn't have a problem with it. Nick G (16709)
1280788 2012-06-09 22:23:00 Which way round was the hat? Either way , if worn inside, definitely indicates a lack of 'couth'. Good manners are not difficult to learn, and are not ridiculous as Metla likes to think.

The hat isn't the issue, Its someone trying to use their position in a family to control another, treating a potential son-in-law like a child is a dumb immature move.

Perhaps the thread starter is feeling threatened by another male in the pride.

I would suggest that if this guy is going to be around long term then efforts are made to get to know him before alienating him.

And yes, he will be different then you or someone that has been brought up under your guidance, That's how it works.
Metla (12)
1280789 2012-06-09 22:36:00 I get guys wearing caps in my workplace all the time. I don't have an issue with it, but the equipment I have to use on these guys does have an issue with it (having to be positioned within 1cm of their face), and to repeatedly have to ask these guys to remove the cap gets a bit tiring.

The young fellow should have ditched the cap at the first suggestion, rather than sat there and let an argument persue about it.

I do have to wonder though, if it was an older guy who was sensitive about his balding, would the wearing of headwear been discretely overlooked?

Either way, not worth anybody getting steamed about. Both parties may need to cool it.
Paul.Cov (425)
1280790 2012-06-09 22:37:00 How about if he was older full stop?

His head, his decision to have a hat on it.
Metla (12)
1280791 2012-06-09 23:31:00 Good manners are not optional, for anybody. I don't care who it is, or how old, manners show respect for other people. I suppose you would excuse farting, or belching at the table as acceptable. I do not. Nor do I accept anyone wearing a hat inside, failing to open a car door for a woman, letting a woman through a door first, or any other common courtesy. Ignorance of good behaviour is not an excuse, it is just that, ignorance. A 17 year old should have learned by that age what constitutes good manners and acceptable behaviour. Richard (739)
1280792 2012-06-09 23:41:00 The hat isn't the issue, Its someone trying to use their position in a family to control another, treating a potential son-in-law like a child is a dumb immature move.

Perhaps the thread starter is feeling threatened by another male in the pride.

I would suggest that if this guy is going to be around long term then efforts are made to get to know him before alienating him.

And yes, he will be different then you or someone that has been brought up under your guidance, That's how it works.
Wheres the +1 button.On a side note, if the restaurant had a problem with hats being worn, their would have said something to the young man. I have been to places where I have been asked to remove a cap, it did state this on the door as I entered. I wear a hat where I can when I go out as I have some nasty scars at the back of my head that I like to keep hidden some times. Times are a changing, what was considered polite from your generation are slowly fading away with the next generation coming through making there own standards. Although I do draw the line with jeans hanging down below the arse.
plod (107)
1280793 2012-06-09 23:52:00 Good manners are not optional, for anybody. I don't care who it is, or how old, manners show respect for other people.

Exactly why the hat shouldn't have been raised as an issue, respect for other people.

If you get offended by someones hat then there is some deeper issues at play.
Metla (12)
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