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| Thread ID: 127267 | 2012-10-13 19:38:00 | pctek (84) | PC World Chat |
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| 1306706 | 2012-10-13 19:38:00 | www.stuff.co.nz Bullying yes, and she did some dumb things, but it's one of the reasons I hate Facebook and all those social media things. It never goes away.... |
pctek (84) | ||
| 1306707 | 2012-10-13 20:28:00 | It is common knowledge that people behave differently online than face-to-face. The social/moral barriers that would normally stop some behaviour seem to vanish when a person is sitting behind a keyboard. I guess they feel empowered to post or share what they like because they are 'safe' in their anonymity. You see this behaviour on the forum all the time. Vulnerable people become more exposed on the internet with inappropriate behaviour or bad choices because it is so easy to share this information. You are not just exposing yourself to a few people, but the entire internet. People with bullying tendencies (or peer bullying tactics) then find it easy to pick on someone like this. Years ago this bullying would be limited to a small circle of people, but the internet/facebook/twitter/YouTube etc makes it easy to widen this circle. The bullying comments are not just said once, but repeated in posts/videos/tweets as a constant and permanent reminder. We used to have a member here who was a 'vulnerable' person. He posted comments that made him a target. Anyone who read those comments could see he had mental health issues. While many people did the right thing by ignoring those posts, some took the opportunity to ridicule him, pick on him, insult him. Some members joined in a 'pack' to attack him. As individuals I am sure they would have never made such comments, and no one would have said that face-to-face to a person who was obviously unwell. As Moderators the only way we had to protect him was to permanently remove him from the forum (several times). We couldn't stop his behaviour any other way, and apart from constantly banning large numbers of members, we couldn't stop the bullying. I don't see this behaviour getting any better with the spread and uptake of social media networking. What is the solution? How do you prevent your family members becoming a victim (or perpetrator)? |
Jen (38) | ||
| 1306708 | 2012-10-13 20:53:00 | I don't see this behaviour getting any better with the spread and uptake of social media networking. What is the solution? How do you prevent your family members becoming a victim (or perpetrator)? Having been bullied online before, I can say that you can't prevent yourself from becoming bullied online, save from never going online at all. Doing things such as sticking up for someone who is being bullied is always going to make you a target. So, its more important to use common sense - never post pics or vids of you doing anything stupid, realising that anything you do online will stay there forever, and can (and will) be shared with anyone. To prevent problems like this, I think it is better for parents to tell their kids that^. As a kid, you need to realise that sometimes its best just to have a thick skin and suck it, never do anything really stupid online, and realise that sometimes its worth making yourself a target - sticking up for someone else being bullied the main example. my :2cents: |
Nick G (16709) | ||
| 1306709 | 2012-10-13 21:08:00 | We used to have a member here who was a 'vulnerable' person. He posted comments that made him a target. Anyone who read those comments could see he had mental health issues. While many people did the right thing by ignoring those posts, some took the opportunity to ridicule him, pick on him, insult him. Some members joined in a 'pack' to attack him. As individuals I am sure they would have never made such comments, and no one would have said that face-to-face to a person who was obviously unwell. As Moderators the only way we had to protect him was to permanently remove him from the forum (several times). We couldn't stop his behaviour any other way, and apart from constantly banning large numbers of members, we couldn't stop the bullying. I don't see this behaviour getting any better with the spread and uptake of social media networking. What is the solution? How do you prevent your family members becoming a victim (or perpetrator)? Amish community center PS, I had to edit my post 3 times before posting, so I didn't get accused of bullying. It seems so easy to do these days. People are not thick skinned like their use to be |
plod (107) | ||
| 1306710 | 2012-10-14 01:18:00 | www.stuff.co.nz Bullying yes, and she did some dumb things, but it's one of the reasons I hate Facebook and all those social media things. It never goes away.... I don't why people join such sites. Why do you need to have a facebook profile so you can keep in touch with friends? What wrong with email, Skype or the phone? |
QW. (15883) | ||
| 1306711 | 2012-10-14 01:37:00 | We tend to be dedicated followers of fashion. | Cicero (40) | ||
| 1306712 | 2012-10-14 02:52:00 | Years ago this bullying would be limited to a small circle of people, but the internet/facebook/twitter/YouTube etc makes it easy to widen this circle. We used to have a member here who was a 'vulnerable' person. He posted comments that made him a target. Yes. I don't think it's friendly at all, as QW says, you can contact your friends without needing to resort to public noticeboards. Yes - although he persisted in replying back to them. |
pctek (84) | ||
| 1306713 | 2012-10-14 03:19:00 | I don't why people join such sites. Why do you need to have a facebook profile so you can keep in touch with friends? What wrong with email, Skype or the phone? Chances are all your friends are already on facebook, good luck convincing them to something else when its easier and more logical for you to do what they are doing, not the other way around. |
icow (15313) | ||
| 1306714 | 2012-10-14 04:37:00 | Chances are all your friends are already on facebook, good luck convincing them to something else when its easier and more logical for you to do what they are doing, not the other way around. All my friends are on farcebook, I'm not and refuse to be yet I still have all my friends it's not hard and when I explained my reasons to them so far all have understood my position |
gary67 (56) | ||
| 1306715 | 2012-10-14 05:53:00 | Farcebook is a joke, but people get bullied in real life too, online just makes it easier, just as it makes most things easier. | Agent_24 (57) | ||
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